Addressing hypothetical questions is always dangerous, but since you asked. For each question my response would depend on what I observed, and the tone of that particular game and the specific situation I was observing.
1st qtr: Most likely, I'd use my "little voice", explaining quietly such action could be considered 'excessive" and should not be repeated.
2nd qtr: Again, depending on what I observed, I might flag as a PF, or possibly again privately advise the player such excessive contact is unnecessary. Depending on the specific circumstance, I might privately advise a coach the player was losing control and some special coaching assistance might be in order.
3rd qtr: as always, depending on what I observed, an immediate flag would likely fly, and if I felt it worthwhile, I might again look to a coach about the players demeanor. Depending on the accumulated behavior, the accumulated response thus far of the player and the reaction (if any) by the coach. I may very likely end that players participation right there.
4th qtr: If by some chance the player was still available to commit a 4th violation, after accepting part of the responsibility for his still playing, I'd flag & DQ him for violating NFHS 2-16-c ("...involves violations that are extremely or persistently vulgar or abusive conduct").
Part of our authority is based on, and derived, from EVERYBODY understanding that we have access to "A big stick, we keep out of sight in a closet". Although, hopefully, we rarely, if ever, find it necessary to use it, EVERYBODY needs to understand it's there for use at OUR discretion-exclusively.
How far YOU wish to tolerate (allow, ignore, permit) bad behavior is up to YOU. The rules are in place to guide you, but the judgments are YOURS. When in doubt you may want to seek guidance from your Referee, NFHS 1-1-6 & 1-1-9 should provide all the authorization you may require.