Good for you. That is the proper attitude. Working HS sports requires a significant amount of commitment and sacrifice, for officials AND their families. The patience and commitment grow exponentially at the collegiate level, and I can only imagine what it is like for NFL guys (and one gal). Whatever your aspiration in officiating, indeed, it requires work and effort, to do justice to the game, at the very minimum. Regarding family and occupational obligations, those are clearly higher priorities than officiating. Those aspiring to work at collegiate and/or professional levels must understand that they simply have to find ways to compensate for the amount of time that it takes; don't allow it to take time away from those obligations. Just find ways to make up for missing a traditional anniversary dinner, or work a little longer some days to make up for missed work.
And be patient. It can take several years (many years, in some cases) for your window to open. That window usually only opens once, and it isn't open long. Be ready to jump through it, when it does.
Officiating isn't for everybody. I've known some great people that showed great potential for long, successful 'careers' in officiating, but their family and work obligations simply didn't allow it, and that's OK. No one thinks any less of them for that, and they never complained about not getting their opportunity.
However, I have also known folks - some capable, and some not - that weren't willing to make the commitment, but then complained about not getting an opportunity. Or, didn't understand why they needed to go work so many scrimmages, or attend clinics, or do the things necessary to progress, and then complained that it was "all politics." If politics is attending clinics and getting 'seen' by folks that are in position to offer scrimmage assignments, or other opportunities to get 'noticed,' then, yes, politics are involved. But, no amount of politicking will help anyone, once they get where they want to be. You gotta know your stuff. And that takes dedication to training and studying. No substitute. You won't get anywhere without, and you darned sure won't last long anywhere without it.
So, keep up the good work, and the proper attitude. It will pay off.
Robert