Ole' Mainer proverb: "If da' dawg hadn't stop to squart, he mighta' caught da' fox"
All our lives are full of "what ifs" , "should haves" , "if only" and the likes. IMHO, to put it behind us and move on only makes us stronger. Several years ago I went to visit a very good friend...that very good friend had a son who was a very good hockey player. The son knew I was an official and had this story:
" Ralph, I had an awful call made aginst me last night
! I had a breakaway and was sailing in alone on the goalie, when I was tripped from behind. I went sprawling into the goalie, knocking him down and the goal off it's morings. Hearing the ref's whistle, I figured I was going to be awarded a penalty shot
until I looked up
. The ref hadn't seen the trip and was hitting me with a 5 minute major and ejection for roughing the goalie
. Because of that I can't play in the next game....."
at that point, dad stepped in and replied......
"Son, life is full of bad calls and tough breaks. The strong winners put it behind them get more determined and move on...the weak losers dwell on the bad calls and tough breaks and blame all their future failures on them. You've got a choice to make : (1) You can sit out a game, blame the rest of your medicore season on that bad call and carry that attitude on into life after school; OR (2) You can sit out a game and get more determined to make this your best season ever
"
The dad put his hand on his son's shoulder and then asked :
"So, it's your choice, son, do you want to continue to grow as a winner, or begin to slide as a loser??"
The son hugged his dad and responded: "I'm a winner, dad, and I'll always be
!!"
The dad and I then had a beer
Epilogue : The son led his team is scoring and made first team all-state. He attended a very prestigious New England University where he was Suta Com Larde in Engineering, today he's married with two children and very successful.
The dad passed in 2004, but I remember those words well and recall them when events such as this occur.
Rest In Peace : Nick Susi (1947-2004) a very good friend, a very great dad