Sorry, but no. I’m not inviting the coach to ask questions during the game. He has my wing to talk to if he needs to. If he wants to talk to me, it better be about a rule he thinks we have misapplied and he needs to call time out.
Unfortunately, the Coach still will usually decides who he addresses questions to, and the Referee still decides if, and when, he elects to direct the Wingman to answer it, or chooses to involve himself. Either way, the Referee retains complete control over whether, or when, to apply, and follow, NFHS 3-5-11, if
HE decides that becomes necessary.
However, if that message of "appropriate and civil tone" has been successfully planted, whatever conversation ensues just might go a little smoother. As often suggested, "An ounce of prevention can avoid a pound of cure".